Dishonest in Relationships

Cheating is one of the most hurtful things someone can do to a relationship. It is disrespectful to the person with whom you have a relationship. It is a breach of trust which undermines the foundation of the relationship. It causes hurt, pain, resentment, and other feelings. Because of the devastating effect it can have, many people are unwilling to give their significant other a chance at maintaining the relationship. This is understandable. However, what can you do if someone you have a relationship with cheats, and you want to keep the relationship going? Consider the following:

1. Find out the reason. It can be difficult and hurtful to do this, but most of the time, cheating has nothing to do with you. Men may cheat because they are reaching middle age and feel a need to prove something to themselves, to show themselves they still have it. Women might cheat because their spouse works a lot and does not pay them as much attention, and so they turn to someone else to find fulfillment. There are numerous reasons for cheating, but if you want to work through it, you have to know what their reason is so that you can rectify the situation. If she cheats because she is feeling neglected, you will have to make bigger efforts not to neglect her, and she will have to make bigger efforts to communicate her needs to you. Whether you cheated, or were cheated on, knowing the reasons why will help you not make the same mistake again.

2. Re-build trust. Cheating is so devastating to relationships because it destroys the trust which tends to be the foundation of a relationship. It makes the spouse who was cheated on feel unimportant, and often they will resent the cheater for making them feel that way. So, if you want to work through a relationship where someone has cheated, you have to start with the little things to rebuild trust. This means being trust worthy, extending trust, following through, even if it is on something silly like picking up milk on the way home from work. Relationships without trust are doomed to failure, so if you have broken yours by cheating, or your spouse has, then start taking the steps to rebuild it, and be willing to do so, but not naive.

3. Be faithful. Cheating makes your spouse doubt their appeal, and feel as though they are not enough. If you are giving the relationship a go after cheating, then it is critical that you do what you can to help each other feel wanted, desirable, loved, etc. The spouse who was cheated on may not want to be intimate for a while, and this is understandable. As the cheater, you have to be careful not to push it, or guilt them into it, and while they adjust, be faithful, caring, and sensitive to their needs.

Make sure they know you desire them, but respect if they won't or can't be intimate yet. It takes trust, but that does not mean you should not try, and that can be the first step to helping them heal, as they need to know they are wanted still.

Sex and Infertility

It can seem like a cruel joke to spend the beginning of your sexually active years trying to have sex while avoiding pregnancy, only to find yourself ten years later trying to get pregnant, and discovering that it doesn’t happen. For most couples who are either dealing with confirmed infertility problems or who are worried that infertility may be a problem, the cruel joke is no laughing matter.

The impact of infertility on your sex life can be enormous. Sex that is timed and filled with anxiety about the outcome quickly becomes mechanical and forced. What was once an intense expression of love, desire, and commitment can feel like an obligation, an expectation -- and practically coercive. As confusion and emotions run high it can be difficult to figure out exactly why you’re so sad or angry or frustrated with your partner and/or yourself.

If you are trying to conceive and either know that infertility is an issue, or suspect that it is, there are a few things you can do to make the situation a little easier. In addition to some basic tips on keeping sex fun while trying to get pregnant, it’s also worth taking some time to think about how the infertility is affecting your sex life and talk with your partner (and/or a professional) about your concerns.

Infertility impacts our experience of gender.
Fertility is intimately linked to definitions of what it means to be a man and a woman in our society. Women are told that the most important identity they will ever have is that of “mother.” Men, on the other hand, are virile hunter-types, and while they are most valued for their ability to make money and get erections, they are also expected to penetrate and impregnate. As soon as you are associated with the idea of infertility, you become suspect as a man or woman, in part because you aren’t fitting into prescribed gender roles.

These expectations can feel like a huge burden, and no matter how hard you try, it’s unlikely you can eliminate the impact of these gender roles on how you feel about infertility. They also inform how we feel about sex, and how we have it. Talking with your partner and social supports about your feelings can help. Acknowledging that infertility doesn’t make you less of a man or woman is also an important step.

Infertility impacts our experience of sex.
Our society leads us to believe that sex means the same thing to all of us -- but nothing could be further from the truth. The only thing likely to be true for all of us is that sex is important, but beyond this, what sex means is as individual as we are.

Regardless of what sex means for you, if you are suddenly expected to have sex on demand, it can feel traumatic, and can, ironically, make you not want to have sex at all. One positive in the situation is that it provides an opportunity to talk with your partner about what sex does mean to you. This can open up new lines of communication and, in the end, even improve your sex life together.

Infertility gives us time to think.
Infertility is all about waiting. Depending on your situation, you may have scheduled procedures, blood tests, and other deadlines to meet, but in the end, it’s a game of wait and see. And waiting means having lots of time to think about things. If you are trying to conceive, the time between ovulations can feel like eternity, and if you are worried about infertility it’s easy to fill that time with all sorts of pessimistic fantasies. You can easily convince yourself that you will never conceive, or that even trying is a mistake.

We often forget that sex isn’t just about the plumbing, it encompasses our thoughts too. The impact of all that negative and anxious thinking on our sex lives can be significant, and it can affect more than just our mood, it can actually affect our body’s readiness to engage in intercourse.

Infertility brings too many people into our bedrooms.
Most of the time, sex is a relatively private act. While it occasionally can involve more than two people, it usually doesn’t include everyone in your social circle and certainly shouldn’t involve family members. But when you are dealing with infertility, and you start to talk to family and friends about it, your bedroom can quickly become very crowded.

The social pressure to get pregnant, combined with the knowledge that family and friends are worried for you, can put extra unneeded pressure on the two of you as you are trying to have sex. At the best of times it can be difficult for us to focus on the experience of sexual pleasure without letting the stress of our daily lives into the bedroom. When you are dealing with infertility, this struggle becomes exponentially more difficult as the worry is about the sex. Taking some time to leave family and friends at the bedroom door can go a long way to making the sex a bit less heavy.

Signs You’ll Never Get Along With Your Ex

If you’re thinking about being friends with your ex, think again. Really. Consider it. You had one thing, and that ended. Sometimes, the ending isn’t very pretty is it? In certain cases, people can leave the past behind, but all too often folks are tempted to be friendly with those whose heart they broke or vice versa. Whether the demise of your romantic relationship was mutual or abrupt, you’ve got to be clear on one thing. There are signs that suggest you may never get along, and you’ve got to heed them so you don’t head into yet another crash.

He’s Your EX. “Ex.” What does that mean to you? Does it mean “now”? Does it mean “for keeps”? Does it indicate that someone or something should be in your life? No. “Ex” is for “excommunicate,” and that’s what you should do with your ex. You didn’t get along. So get over it and get on with someone else. Anything else is too complicated.

He’s Still in Love with You. If you dumped the dude, and you’re no longer in love with him, but you have this vague, sneaking suspicion that he’s still got feelings for you, this sort of unspoken, subterranean sexual tension, even if it’s only a one-way street, will end up sabotaging you, your other relationships, and his ability to move on. If you let him go, it’s like an act of loving mercy. He may disagree.

You’re Still in Love with Him. If you hold a shred of hope that he’ll change, that he’ll decide that he really does want to get married, that one day he may find himself able to commit to you totally, you’re only prolonging your pain. How can you be “friends” with someone you secretly hope for more with? If he does change, he’ll come and find you, but don’t hold your breath.

The Two of You Never Really Got Along Anyway. It’s weird. To really be with someone totally, you have to be their best friend and their lover. But how many couples do you know where it’s all love, sex, and passion, and yet they can’t seem to communicate, connect, or get emotionally intimate with one another? If you couldn’t deal with each other as BFFs in your relationship, you’ll never make it as buddies when the sex is gone.

He Owes You Money. If you’re going to enter a different kind of relationship together, you’ve got to start with a clean state. If he owes you money, never did that thing for you that he swore he would, or in some other way has a debt that has yet to have been repaid to you, the muddle of your romantic relationship will carry over into whatever you have together afterward. Cut your losses and say adios.

One of You Cheated. Just forget it. I mean, really? Not a chance.

He’s a Jerk. It’s great that some awesome people can stay friends with their exes, but the fact of the matter is that sometimes someone did something crappy, and that’s why you broke up. Whatever he was like in the relationship is going to dictate how he is in this friendship of yours, and if he wasn’t a stand-up guy when you guys were together, you really can’t expect him to be a stand-up guy after you stop bumping uglies.

Love Birds Couple

Love has been denoted by many a gestures and objects since time immemorial. Something that has a direct or even a distant connotation with love was used to symbolize this feeling. Some of the representations which have been used for a long time are:

Symbolic representations of love:

• Heart: In ancient times, many people believed that the heart was the source of all emotions. So when you talk about giving your heart to someone, it meant that you are completely giving away everything to him/her.
• Cupid: the chubby mischievous winged boy was the son of the Roman Goddess of Love- Venus. According to myths, Cupid's love arrows would pierce the heart of his young men and women
• Roses: Roses are indisputably the most popular flowers among lovers around the world when it comes to conveying emotions of love. They were supposedly the favorite flowers of Venus who is the Roman goddess of love
• Ribbons, Lace and Frills: These have long been used to represent romance; Knights would present lace and other finery to their ladylove before riding to battle
• Love knots: love knots have a sequence of zigzag and intertwining loops with no beginning or end. They are supposed to symbolize everlasting love,
• Wooden Spoons: Wooden love spoons were given as gifts on lover's day with engraved images of hearts, keys, and keyholes.
• "X" sign: The "X" sign represents a kiss. This tradition has its origins in the practice during the medieval ages, wherein illiterate people would sign documents with an X sign and kiss on it
• Lovebirds/ Turtle Doves: It is an ancient belief that birds found their mates on this romantic day, so people felt that birds made great gifts on this day. Lovebirds are colorful little birds that sit closely together in pairs - as sweethearts do. And it is commonly believed that these birds cannot live without their mates. Doves are symbols of fidelity and love, because they mate and pair up for life. Love birds

Generally if you see a couple on the roadside or in some park holding hands of each other or kissing, the first comment we make is "they are love birds". But do you know what are the actual lovebirds are? A lovebird is a type of parrot. It got this name for its very sociable and affectionate nature. When a lovebird bonds with its mate, their bonding usually lasts their entire life. So, though you can have one it's always best to keep the lovebirds in pairs.

A lovebird will be normally short and stocky. It is one of the smallest parrots in the world. Generally many lovebirds are green in color. But they also come in many colors. They are basically unknown until the 1600s. Some Europeans who toured Africa saw them and wrote about them. The first lovebirds were imported into Europe in 19th century. By the 20th century lovebirds became more popular in both Europe and US.

Lovebird can be found in Africa and Madagascar. They are very popular pets. The lovebirds are generally tame and so probably adapt to their new environment easily. Pet owners have to ensure that they want lovebirds as their pets. But if you want only one bird, you have to pay it a lot of attention and interaction. Because of this only they are usually kept in pairs, so they can give each other a happy company. Like human beings lovebirds also don't get along sometimes. So be sure that your birds are compatible with each other. Otherwise they may fight with each other.

Any way, the fact is that a lovebird is one that can easily adapt to domestication much easier than any other creature from foreign countries. They can be great pets, if they are given proper care and attention. It's because of their social ability or chirping, they are the most desirable pets. Everyone loves having lovebirds at their homes and show off to their neighbors. You also want to own them.