Sex can be wonderful, but it isn't just a physical thing. It needs mood, atmosphere and a connection between the partners for it to be the magical experience we all want it to be.So what can you do to make sex the magical event you want it to be?
Firstly - don't consume too much food or alcohol beforehand. A romantic but light meal with lots of beautiful flirting and feeding each other will put you both in the mood. Red wine or champagne will make an excellent accompaniment, but only in small doses. You can always punctuate your later love-making with champagne anyway. Involve as many different senses in the meal as you can.
For a truly fabulous sexual experience, it helps if you can be loving and intimate with your partner. Some people will say that the intensity of casual sex is more exciting; however, for a spine-tingling night, the more kissing and gentle contact you can have to contrast with the deep physicality of sex, the better. Light touch, light kissing, soft contact all communicate love as well as lust, and they also prolong and return the foreplay - you can feel like a love-struck teenager touching your loved one's face for the first time all over again. It can be profoundly erotic and can enhance sex greatly.
In touching your partner, forget the usual "rules" of foreplay. Touch should be central to the entire sexual experience, not just the beginning. Light, tiny kisses; circles with your tongue, finger lines down her or his back: use your imagination and your intelligence. Where they clearly respond, you are doing something amazing to them!
Rhythm quietens the mind and allows the body space. The rhythm of your love-making should be whatever pleases you both, but if you want a night of astonishing sex, the rhythm of the experience should be appropriate to the moments and the feelings. Sometimes it could be soft, gentle, loving: at other times riotous. There is no point in changing just for the sake of it, and people do prefer different things, of course: but different types of sex widen and enhance the experience.
Some couples will like to have music on while they are having sex. This is a deeply personal preference. You need to know what you and your partner both like before setting out on your dream night of sex. It's not really the time to experiment with this because it can be really off-putting. So - a few conversations before, a few experiences previously, and when you come to a night you want to be the best ever, you know what you want.
What about clothing? A negligee? A sexy thong? Nothing? What will enhance things for you most of all?
Finally, one thing that many couples forget when making love is talk. Talking together during your experience, talking beautifully, poetically (reading some poetry even), developing your love through words will all make your night something truly special. Part of this is sharing fantasies, which can bring so much more both to a night and to a relationship. The trust you show when discussing fantasies will bring you together more than you can imagine.
Sex should be one of life's real pleasures. So make the most of it and please your partner and yourself, and you will do your relationship so much good in the process.
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